While choosing to implement sleep training can be a natural next step or an easy decision to make for some, the decision to dive into sleep training can feel extremely heavy. For our clients, we usually see a mix – some who are severely struggling with their sleep and some who seem to be having an easier time.
Take your time to thoroughly research and choose a sleep training strategy that feels right for your family. Note that most sleep changes can be uncomfortable, feel uncertain or even downright impossible at times. Our proven program (available here) is a great option if you want to start tonight. If you aren’t sure if your baby is ready for sleep training, speak with your caregiver or follow these general guidelines:
- Baby is over 14 weeks
- Baby is gaining weight according to their curve
- Baby is healthy – if there are any health concerns, get permission from their doctor
- Baby has their own surface to sleep on (bassinet, crib or pack and play)
Best Practices for a strong start with sleep training:
Start with bedtime in the evening, then continue through the night and with naps the following day. Do not start with naps.
- Your first day of nap sleep training should come right after your first night. For example, if you begin sleep training Friday night, your first nap would be Saturday.
- It can be possible to only sleep train nights, but we do generally recommend doing naps as well. This can help your baby benefit from a consistent sleep environment + journey to sleep
Choose a date when you can be home for overnights for at least 10-14 days in a row.
- If your schedule does not permit 10-14 days in a row, wait until you have as many days in a row as possible.
- For example, if you share custody or have grandparents take your baby once a week, try and line up as many nights as possible with sleep at home.
If possible, aim to have at least some naps at home. Otherwise, allow yourself the flexibility of having some naps on-the-go.
Ensure you have something to occupy your mind – book, laundry, go for a walk, talking with a supportive friend, etc.
Mentally prepare yourself so you feel ready to dive in
Include your support system in your plans
Ensure you and baby are feeling well (no sickness in the house)
Remind yourself these important truths
Understand the Purpose of Your Sleep Training:
It’s essential to remind yourself of the purpose behind sleep training. This isn’t about abandoning your child or neglecting their needs; it’s about teaching them valuable skills for independent sleep. Remember, you’re helping your child develop healthy sleep habits that will benefit them for a lifetime.
Acknowledge Your Feelings:
It’s normal to experience a range of emotions when contemplating sleep training. Guilt, doubt, and even sadness are common. Acknowledge these feelings, but also remind yourself that prioritising your child’s sleep is an act of love. You’re making a choice that will ultimately benefit both you and your little one.
Trust Your Instincts:
As a parent, you know your child better than anyone else. Trust your instincts and believe in your ability to make the right decisions for your family. While sleep training methods may vary, ultimately, you are the expert on your child’s needs.
Focus on the Long-Term Benefits of Sleep Training Your Baby:
When the going gets tough during sleep training, it’s crucial to keep your eyes on the prize – the long-term benefits. Improved sleep for both you and your child means more energy, better mood, and enhanced overall well-being for the entire family. Remind yourself of these benefits when faced with challenges along the way.
Practice Self-Compassion:
Parenting is a journey filled with highs and lows, and sleep training is no exception. Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion. Understand that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed or frustrated at times. Give yourself grace and remember that you’re doing the best you can for your child.
Seek Support from Friends, Family, or Sleep Consultants:
You don’t have to navigate the sleep training journey alone. Reach out to friends, family, or online communities for support and encouragement. Sharing your experiences with others who understand can provide invaluable reassurance and guidance.
As you embark on the sleep training journey, remember that mental preparation is just as important as the practical steps. By understanding the purpose, acknowledging your feelings, trusting your instincts, focusing on the long-term benefits, and seeking support, you can mentally prepare yourself for the challenges and rewards that lie ahead. You’ve got this.
If you need help from Better Bedtime, please reach out!
Bridget Jensen is a graduate of Wilfrid Laurier University, Conestoga College and is the Canadian Director of the Association of Professional Sleep Consultants. Bridget’s calm and supportive demeanor are beneficial while working with families, individuals and workplaces all over Canada and beyond. She is dedicated to helping people get the rest they need, so they can feel at their best during the day. She is founder of Better Bedtime, a full-service sleep consultancy based in Waterloo Region. Services range from one-on-one programs for infants, children and adults to sleep sessions for the workplace.
